Recognizing Your Red Flags and Becoming a Better Person

It’s easy to talk about the kind of person we want to date. We want someone loyal, emotionally mature, honest, who communicates well, who respects us and makes us feel loved and so on.

But have you ever stopped to ask yourself,  “Am I also becoming the kind of person I’m asking for?”

Sometimes, the biggest relationship problem isn’t the person we haven’t found yet. It’s the parts of ourselves we haven’t taken the time to confront.

Recognize your own red flags

Maybe you become distant whenever you’re upset instead of communicating.

Maybe you always need to be right.

Maybe you get jealous easily and disguise it as love.

Maybe you struggle to apologize.

Maybe you expect your partner to understand your feelings without explaining them.

Maybe you carry the pain of your previous relationship into every new one.

Maybe you test people’s love instead of simply trusting them.

These things don’t automatically make you a bad person, but refusing to acknowledge them can make you a difficult person to love. 

Becoming better starts with honesty Self-awareness is one of the most important things you can bring into a relationship.

Ask yourself: 

What do I do when I’m angry?

How do I handle rejection?

Can I communicate without insulting or manipulating someone?

 Can I accept when I’m wrong?

Do I know how to give love, or do I only know how to demand it?

You don’t have to be perfect before entering a relationship. 

But you should be willing to grow. 

Your partner shouldn’t have to suffer because you refuse to heal, mature, communicate or take responsibility for your actions.

Become the person you want to attract.

If you want honesty, practice honesty. If you want loyalty, be loyal. If you want communication, learn to communicate. If you want patience, become patient. If you want someone emotionally mature, work on your own emotional maturity.

Love isn’t just about finding someone who treats you well. It’s also about becoming someone who deserves to be trusted, respected and loved well.

Before asking, “Where is my soulmate?”, Sometimes the better question is “Am I becoming the kind of person my soulmate would be grateful to find?”

Fix up if you haven’t. 

          — Airminado💛

               Connecting Souls. Creating Forever.